A very important word in both life and leadership that is sadly under-emphasised, yet undoubtedly significant in achieving sound results and becoming a better leader.
Leadership like I always say is basically about 2 things: situations and people. Everything a leader does revolves around his/her ability to effectively manage these two elements.
The greatest disservice a leader can do to himself/herself is to try to control every situation and every individual within his/her environment. In text-book ‘speak’, situations and people can be controlled to fit your agenda once you know the right things to say and do; and you know the exact order in which to say or do them. In reality however, this is very far from the truth. No doubt you can perform certain actions in order to get certain desired results but for those who have been in leadership for a while, you will agree with me that most of your daily functions involve managing situations–for the best possible outcomes–rather than controlling them. Stuff happens and there’s only so much you can control. Controlling people is an even greater challenge and dare I say impossible (except you are a tyrant or a totalitarian) if you want to have a healthy and productive team and/or establishment. It takes immense effort and a totally distorted perspective to control the lives of other individuals. Your ability to control should be directed towards your own behaviour and mannerism; that is the greatest show of your control power.
Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s take a look at what the dictionary says about conduct. It describes conduct as the manner in which a person behaves. It also describes it as a way of managing/handling affairs. Your best bet at building a highly productive team and maintaining your sanity is to adjust your behaviour so that you can better manage your people and better handle the situations that arise within your environment.
Listed below are 7 codes of conduct I’ve put together to help you become a better leader. They are:
- Be careful how you use your words, words are powerful.
- Say what you mean and mean what you say.
- Do not use your words in a manipulative way for selfish reasons.
- Resist the urge to let anger get the better part of you.
- Be ready and willing to make things right with someone who has offended you and vice versa (i.e. Do not allow strife ruin the task at hand or stop the emergence of your desired outcomes).
- Let your opposition bring out the best in you not the worst (how else will you grow and reach maturity?). When someone gives you a hard time, try not to precipitate an uproar; save your energy instead and stay in charge.
- Do not ration your generosity in favour of only those who are nice to you, extend it to all within the same environment (i.e. Don’t engage in tit-for-tat living).
- When you do something gob-smacking(ly) good, do not make a show of it; accept any acknowledgements and carry on with your functions without imposing your opinions on everyone.
- Do not get carried away and overcome with getting more that you miss out on responding to opportunities or to someone else’s giving.
Until next time, continue to;
Lead right and Live light